Not too long ago you came to a realization: the same situations keep repeating themselves in your relationships— almost a recycling of experiences. You enter a new relationship and somehow it quickly fails. So, what is happening here? And what does it mean for you and your relationships? These are great questions. In its simplest terms, attachment theory holds that there is a foundational blueprint to relationships that is created between birth and the age of three.
The Real Reason You’re Still Single
What Are Attachment Styles And How Do They Impact Relationships?
From an evolutionary perspective, cultivating strong relationships and maintaining them has both survival and reproductive advantages. Yet, love and relationships are rarely as perfect and problem-free as we would like them to be. Maybe you have never really thought through or analyzed your behavior in relationships. Still, you might have noticed repeating patterns in your love life. Have you wondered why you keep ending up in the same situation, even with different partners? Do you get too clingy or jealous?
Attachment Styles & Their Role in Relationships
A great deal of your success in relationships—or lack thereof—can be explained by how you learned to relate to others throughout your childhood as well as later in life. Attachment Theory is an area of psychology that describes the nature of emotional attachment between humans. It begins as children with our attachment to our parents. Attachment theory began in the s and has since amassed a small mountain of research behind it.
If your dating life hasn't gone exactly how you imagined over the years, don't blame yourself—at least, not entirely. Your attachment style plays a key role in determining the health of your relationships, and well Of course, if you've never heard of the concept of attachment styles, you might be surprised to learn what yours is—and that it's the real reason you keep texting that guy who's definitely curving you. And while you might've gotten this far living in ignorant bliss, understanding your attachment style can improve your existing relationships including non-romantic ones or ward off future heartbreak by helping you identify and subsequently change negative behaviors. In the s, psychiatrist John Bowlby formulated attachment theory after studying how infants reacted when separated from their primary caregiver usually their mothers.