I'm a Midwesterner with a background in writing and media. My articles are mainly about relationships, dating, and heartbreak. Throughout my life I've been told that it is a lot harder to spot a lesbian than a gay man, that women find it easier to hide their sexual orientation, or even that lesbians don't exist don't fall for that last one, kids. The fact is that, just like straight people, LGBT people come in all types. Ask yourself: Why do I need to know?
gaydar : Gay & Black Glossary
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Have you ever wondered how gay men are able to recognise one another? Since you clicked on this article, I assume that you do. In fact, this is actually something that I get asked pretty often. For some weird reason, straight people seem pretty keen to find out how gay men seem to have the uncanny ability to suss one another out. Most straight people depend solely on their gaydars to tell them if someone is gay or not.
People assume first that all individuals are straight and a minority of people have a different orientation. Second, this assumption is adjusted by the perception of individuals' masculinity and femininity, such that men deemed more feminine are perceived as gay, while women deemed more masculine are perceived as lesbian. These beliefs and exceptions are part of a larger belief system that is limited, in that it not only assumes a binary model of sexuality, but also may harm those whom gaydar depicts as gender non-conformers because of the assumption that people are heterosexual by default.
Lauren Strapagiel August 15, When I realized I was gay, I did what I always do when confronted with something new and potentially scary—I researched. I wanted to know what it meant to be a lesbian. Not the liking women part, I had that down. But what did it mean, culturally, to leave heterosexuality behind?