They just can't seem to have a night out that doesn't involve talking about the kids, household tasks, scheduling logistics, and, worse yet, complaints about one another. Still, most women and men alike, long to recapture the pre-marriage, mid-courtship "date-night feeling" when their conversation was both comfortable and captivating, their mutual attraction was electric and palatable, and the night was filled with the promise of deepening their intimacy and providing a delightful escape from their daily routines and stressors. This longing to recreate date-night intimacy could be related to a primal urge for survival. There is a well-documented connection between the support that comes from a well-functioning intimate relationship and the personal well-being of the relationship partners. Intimate relationships buffer partners from the negative outcomes associated with the stress due to life events like pregnancy, birth of a child, job loss, illness, retirement and, of course, routine daily stressors, as well.
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I want you to do something. Make a list in your head of the marriages you've seen that you actually like. How many married couples can you think of that have a thriving marriage -- a good, happy, alive marriage -- the kind of marriage that makes other people want to get married? I've tried this question on many people. Most people can come up with only one or two examples of strong, lively, and attractive marriages. I want to change that.
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I posted that my wife wanted an open marriage, or to start swinging. Knowing she is extremely impulsive, I was able to talk her out of an open marriage. She agreed it wasn't practical, being seen around the city with different men may not be helpful to her career either. However, she said swinging with another couple still might be fun if we were discrete enough.
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